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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #156? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

I’m kind of … insatiable.

“She’s gasping already. Each breath a moan, each touch connected to the noises she makes.”

The most spankable day of the year

“And for spankos, they are a high holy day to be approached with all the reverence and gaiety of a Pagan-cum Christian holiday.”

Private club

“It’s that kind of club - the kind you have to know about, the kind that doesn’t even have a name.”

Sugasm Editor

Sex Work And Honesty: Being Childfree

Editor’s Choice

I Wonder

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Jay and I will be visiting New York this week. Starting today, actually. The agenda for the trip is to have fun and hang out with perverts. If you are a fun pervert, be in touch. I know that I will be at Druken, Careening Writers and In the Flesh at various times on Thursday night. Stop by and say hello. If you need me between now and then, email (lumpesse AT gmail DOT com) and Twitter seem to be your best options. I’ll be staying connected.

Sometimes things go missing on my computer for awhile and I unearth them. This picture is an example of that, I really need a better filing system:

The Hitachi Magic Wand is often referred to as the Cadillac of vibrators. I think that description is erroneous because “Cadillac” implies a certain level of prestige and conspicuous consumption. I don’t think that the Hitachi implies that at all. It is simple, inelegant, and packs an enormous amount of power. Really, it is like a pickup truck. It is a utilitarian stand-by that gets the job done.  In fact, it is often over-kill for the job that it needs to get done but no one faults it because it is one of the Good ‘Ole Boys of sextoy land.

If you’ve had enough with analogies, let me say that I adore my Hitachi and it is my go-to toy when I want an orgasm in a matter of moments. It has also become my go-to toy for extracting orgasms out of my lovely girlfriend. Here are some of her thoughts on it.
Ellie: Alright, Hitachi. Are you a convert?
Ariel: I worship at the temple of the Hitachi
Ellie: And it worships at yours!
Ariel: I have to be honest, I wasn’t too jazzed up about the idea of the Hitachi
Ellie: I was a little worried that it might be too much for you.
Ariel: I’ve never been that big of a fan of vibrations, so I went into it uncertain about being successful with it
Ellie: What was different about it from other vibrators you have tried?
Ariel: Aside from the sexy gal using it on me…
it’s the depth (not length) -it’s all about the depth
this wasn’t all on the surface, the vibrations seem to just flow through me
Ellie: Did you prefer it on your clit directly or with the attachment?
Ariel: For speed to climax and repeatability, I prefer the attachment - the jelly material gives a nice cushion and I’m then I’m not worried about getting either overstimulated or numbed
I’m also on board without the attachment, but I think I couldn’t go for as many rounds that way
Ellie: Yeah, it definitely can get overwhelming after awhile.
I also used it to conduct vibration through that glass dildo? How did that work for you?
Ariel: Really well
Ellie: Was it less intense than with the attachment?
Ariel: Now I’m thinking up all kinds of things that it could conduct through…
Ellie: I’ve done it with rope ;)
Ariel: Sign me up!
It was less intense, but not by much– it was a different sensation entirely for me though
Less conforming to me, and more insistent
Ellie: Yeah, the shape of that toy is really different and the glass is so hard that it will conduct it differently.

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Sabrina has re-launched her brilliant blog Full Frontal Politics with an incisive and spot-on article about the Australian Supreme Court’s decision to convict a man on child pornography charges for possessing drawn images of Simpsons characters engaging in sexual acts.

Okay. Let’s put our niche porn marketing hats on here and shine the red light of reason upon this logic. Someone who is looking for cartoon photos of The Simpsons characters is probably not fueling the demand for genuine child porn that does involve the abuse of children. Shock-value cartoon porn simply doesn’t tend to cross over to the screams and pain of gory reality. Many–most I’ve talked to–viewers of cartoon porn and hentai prefer it because they’re trying to get away from the gray areas of gory reality. Let’s ignore, for a moment, the obvious slippery-slope leap of logic used here and assume, for a moment, that it’s possible for fiction to inspire its viewers to enact crimes portrayed therein.

(“Pull Down Your Skirt; Your Id Is Showing”)

I’ll spare you the round of, “Amen, sistah” and just direct you to read the rest of her insightful commentary. She has moved past outrage, into logic, and ultimately has me a little afraid. Fiction is just that and the goriest and most brutal crimes and atrocities are committed in it. When I think of the fictional material available in the world, Bart banging Lisa is pretty low on my scale of disgust and revulsion.

I am sort of embarrassed to admit that until recently, I didn’t have a decent blindfold. I know, I know, what sort of kinky pervert am I without a blindfold. I did have a great collection of sleep masks from transatlantic flights that had been standing in for a proper blindfold, but I was pretty psyched when Sextoy.com gave me the chance to review this gorgeous, leather blindfold.

As soon as it came, I tried it on and found that it was comfortable and blocked out most of the light from the room. But, I had other plans for this blindfold and they involved my girlfriend, a sex swing, restraints, and a variety of vibrators and other toys. Now, I’ll be perfectly honest with you, I don’t think that the blindfold was the focus of her attention during much of the reviewing process. But, honestly, if you’re doing a good job, the blindfold should never be the focal point. And if the blindfold is doing a good job, the wearer will stop thinking about it all together. Still, I asked her to reflect on the use of blindfolds in general and the adequacy of this blindfold in particular.

Ellie: So, how about that blindfold?
How much light did it let in?
Ariel: I got a tiny sliver of light right at the bridge of my nose
Ellie: Yeah, I noticed the same thing when I wore it.
Ariel: It wasn’t enough to let me really look at anything, but it was not total darkness
Ellie: How was the padding? Was it comfortable against your eyes?
Ariel: It felt like the perfect amount of padding for me - it’s cushioned all the way around, but it doesn’t press against my eyes the way some padding can
Ellie: Do you like being blindfolded?
Ariel: Absolutely
Ellie: Why?
Ariel: I even close my eyes when I kiss
Ellie: Doesn’t everyone do that?
Ariel: I always thought so, but I’ve been told I was wrong and now everyone keeps trying to make me look them in the eye all the time
Ellie: Hmm, that is sort of odd. I open mine at intervals but I don’t generally keep them open for kissing.
Ariel: I like the dark, it feels ‘more’ in the dark
and my sets of visuals don’t get so confusing
Ellie: I don’t like being expected to do much when I can’t see. When we all have sex in the dark I get clumsy and disoriented.
But when I’m tied up or being left in one place, it is okay.
Ariel: Blindfolds sound like a nice solution - I can have my dark and you can see what you’re doing
Ellie: Exactly. And you can’t see me not knowing what I’m doing.
Ariel: if this is you not knowing what you’re doing, in I’m for it when you figure it out ;)
Ellie: I just have an effective toybag.
Ariel: that’s just gravy

So, take it from the two of us. Blindfolds can spice things up and add a new element to almost any encounter. Additionally, the SL Leather Padded Blindfold totally met my specifications. It is high quality and well-crafted. I’m confident that it will last for a long time and that it functions quite well. So well, that it is a complete afterthought during a really sexy moment.

Thanks to Sextoy.com for allowing me to review great bondage and BDSM sex toys.

There are days when I crave his words more than his touch. Exhibit, a series of instant messages from Michael that left me gasping:

Fuck me until I cry.
Fuck me until I pass out and keep fucking me until you’re done.
Fuck me like I’ll die when you let go.
Fuck me until your name is a prayer on my tongue that I can’t articulate over my gasps.
Fuck me ragged until you scrape away the rough edges and mend my jaggedness like a river-washed stone.
Fuck me broken. Fuck me whole.
Fuck me until I forget my hangups, my catch-22 codes and the traps by which I condemn myself.
Fuck me until I remember that sex is good, love is straightforward and it is ok to just be held.

After he wrote all this, I observed that he never hesitates to turn casual conversation into poetry. He insisted that he didn’t know anything about having a casual conversation.

The Buzz 1 is a great little realistic silicone dildo. I was impressed with the shape of the head, in particular and the fact that it comes with a bullet vibe to convert it to a vibrator readily.

I played with the Buzz 1 and found the shape and size incredibly satisfying. It occupies that not too small and not too big range for me. The silicone is ultra-smooth which means that with a good application of lube it gets really slick and lovely. Another bonus of this toy is that it is harness compatible with a 1 1/2″ O-ring. I tried it out in my Corsette harness and decided that it was quite majestic and impressive looking.

I haven’t had a chance to fuck either of my boyfriends with this yet and my girlfriend is a big fan of Goliath, but I might see if she wants to experience the Buzz 1 next time around. Afterall, variety is the spice of life and we’re all quite accustomed to stunning variety.